Understanding how to respond to unpleasant situations

March 31, 2016

Who we are and how we think generally will provide us on how we react to many different complicated situations with life. Whether it's with a business or with your personal life, dictating unpleasant results on how you respond to any given situation.

The truth of the matter we spend most of our lives reacting, rather than taking our time and responding in a professional, polite manner. Our brains are so used to this type of acknowledgement with any given situation we are dealing with.  We do not take the necessary time to allow our mind to pause and think before answering to any personal remarks that are made towards you.

How many times have you found yourself in this type of environment, whether it's a text, email or a face to face confrontation? We do not even take a deep breath; we fire back a text, email or reply to the person who you are talking to. I know I have been guilty on many, on necessary occasions. We all have been.

So how do we change our approach when facing confrontation? The first thing you should do is take a deep breath, allow your mind to calm down before you react to the irritating statement. Pause your thoughts, then think about what was said, or you read.  You might need to practices this several times until you feel comfortable with how you're starting to react now to the rude words; that would usually trigger a reply without thinking.

When dealing face to face with a hostile disagreement, you should just look at the person and watch how they react. Sometimes they will calm down, providing time for you to analyze the statement that agitated you. Now you can calmly reply to the remark, with a the smartest, compassionate response possible. Then there are times, the most intelligent thing to do is walk away from the distressed situation. Some remarks are not worth a reply back.


By changing your words, you will create positive and productive results.
I have put together this slideshow to assist you on how to react with the correct choice of words. So the next time you find yourself confronted with a confusing situation, you will be much better prepared on how to handle any complicated disagreement, whether by text, phone, email or face to face. You will be in total control and utterly amazed with your performance.

All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How to Change unacceptable habits to positive habits

March 29, 2016

On the last article I wrote, it was all about how to avoid making costly mistakes well building your success. The biggest change we all need to address is our habits, some are acceptable, but most are just plain dreadful. How do we change our patterns, not sure there is a formula for this quadratic equation?

I like to use the puppy approach, if your dog dies, you replace it with a new dog, and learn to love it. It helps you with the casualty and loss of your dog that has been part of your family for years. This strategy when applied to any obsession you are having complications with, needs to be addressed with an active practice that allows you to grow with a favorable attitude.

When you replace an unacceptable pattern with a particular affirmative habit, it helps you forget that pattern ever existed, or provides tempory relief until you adjust to removing it totally from your daily routines. No different than when you have a break up with a loved one, most people try and found a replacement for their loss. They need that comfort zone, not easy, but it helps until you adjust to a suitable partner.

If we understand this practice correctly, each time we want to make an adjustment as in breaking away from a bad habit, you will need to replace it with a substance that will occupy your time during the horrible feelings you are having. Keeping your mind occupied is an essential element, I do agree easier said than consummated.

Here is a perfect example you want to stop drinking, how do you replace the drinking? You get home the first thing you do is crack open a bottle of beer, perhaps a glass of wine or whatever it is you enjoyed drinking. Instead of drinking, how about working out, going for a jog, walk, or just taking your bike for a ride. You need something to replace that awful habit during the time you would be drinking.

Instead of taking the same Avenue home, where you would stop and pick up your favorite beverage, take a different path, baby steps but so vital to this type of success. You will not stop at the same shop; you will see other things you have not seen before during your drive home.

Essential Elements for breaking bad habits

The first step you will need to establish is the pattern you want to remove from your daily routines. The mind has mysterious abilities when you write the problem you want to remove permanently. Write a short description of what your craving to change, along with the strategy you will use to eliminate this pattern. Share your emotions, feelings on why you need to modify this habit from your life, and how it will change your attitude. How it will improve your current situation to a more productive frame of mind.

You will need to understand what triggers these's unacceptable patterns.
Who are you with when these obstacles come into play?
Are you at a place where you're not comfortable or familiar with?
Do they occur at a particular time of day? 
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The more information you can gather about the habits you want to change when you're writing your plan for action will increase your overall results with the transformation.

What Creates Bad Habits?

Most of the time it has to do with boredom and stress, the primary reasons why we have unacceptable habits, such as drinking, smoking, laziness along with many other habits we have tried to eliminate from our lives. Sometimes the patterns are deeper issues, which will take us a considerable amount of time to understand the root of the problem. In some cases, we may need to seek professional therapy, never be ashamed of taking this route.

Understanding the core source of our unacceptable habits provides a solution that we can implement with satisfactory results. You do not need to be someone else; you need to visualize your success with breaking patterns that are holding you back from a much more peaceful, enjoyable lifestyle.


I hope this will help you get started with breaking any bad habit forever from your life. Remember it will take time, effort but if you dedicate your mind to this program, you will see results with your progress.

All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How to Avoid costly mistakes well building you're Success

March 22, 2016

Number one obstacle will always be the person who is pressing to achieve success; that would be you. You have no one to blame for your past failures; understanding this statement will provide a perspective on who you are. The reason I make this statement it is never our fault, we never take accountability with our personnel development. However, we never change our methods of approaching it with a confident frame of mind.

Understanding our miscalculations is like winning a lottery, we then have the ability to improve our vulnerabilities. We are all humans, we deal with many issues daily, too many distractions, we lose focus. How do we change all of this? Our inner desires want nothing more than to become successful with our life. We want our spouse, families also to feel proud of our achievements.

We have read countless books, listened to CDs, watch videos on personal development, spent larger amounts of money for us to change our habits. However, nothing works or provides the solutions we are seeking. The reason, we always give up. Most of us, not all are just not committed to changing any bad habits we have.

The deal destroyer is, not being able to concentrate on what you should be achieving each and every day. The most logical reason I can come up with, most people have no idea what they want in life, I was one of them also. You think you do, but reality then sets in and slaughters your dream. The primary reason was not as important as you thought it was.

Another logical reason we all suffer from is one of the most miss understood circumstances not many will every compromise or concede to it. The fear of failing with knowing our dream might not materialize again. Fear can also be the biggest motivator you will ever have. When you use it to motivate your desires. Creates raw energy that stimulates your thinking with your mindset.

The one that terminates our dreams the most is our comfort zone. When your mind starts to trick you, convince you that your life is not that crummy at all. Why do you have to change anything, you have everything you need at the moment. Having a dangerous mindset will provide you with the results you have achieved countless times, with your personal development.

How do you change your mindset to become laser focused on your goals, dreams, and desires you want to enjoy. Modify the people you associate your time with, is a good start. Start understanding that time is your most valuable commodity, one you will never get back. So use your time efficiently, organize your day with what has to be addressed and achieved today not tomorrow. 


My rule is, Yesterday is History.  
Today is a Mystery and Tomorrow is an Adventure.

You need to embrace all of your new challenges that present themselves like windows of opportunities. Understand that intelligence over time is being developed if you do not understand something do your homework on that topic. Google it, and study what you did not know at the time. You will find the answers. Learn from all of your past mistakes, and never repeat them again.

Keeping a daily journal is not a bad idea, during your private time writing your days activities, some positive, some negative. The reason is you can always go back and re-read it, and learn from what happened. Just the other night I re-read some of my thoughts from 1987. I said well I forgot about how happy I was on that day. I did it before I can achieve this mindset once again. See my point why a daily journal is not a bad idea. No one knows I do this, my private time, my thoughts, emotions as well as a little history of the past. However, now the cat is out of the bag.

All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How to Guarantee You're Success Drive with Tapping

March 20, 2016


First of all, what is Tapping, and what can it do for your direction towards achieving success. Tapping is a technique that provides your brain with relief of stress, anxiety, eliminating negative vibes, situations, including chronic pain from your mind. The fixation I find irresistible and enjoy about tapping is anyone can master it in such a short duration of your time.

How does tapping work, when you concentrate on the body's energy meridian points, it provides your brain with knowledge that eliminates many negative thoughts and allows your mind to become and feel totally relieved. Allowing your mind to draw energy from the universe the same way the Laws of Attractions works. Tapping allows your mind to relieve itself from built up stress, creating a much sharper focus of concentrations without distractions from negative vibes.

When you apply tapping to your daily activities, you will notice a drastic change in your overall performance. I came across tapping by accident. I felt overwhelmed, had zero energy, lack of motivation, due to a relationship break up. I started doing some research on how I would be able to cope with myself and get over what was eating me alive.

I spent almost two days studying, reading every article, and watching many YouTube videos on this subject. What convinced me was how I felt after the first session of following the steps to achieving the freedom I had not felt for such a long time. So I decided to apply it to my daily activities using different levels of negative vibes holding me from achieving results I was unable to accomplish.

Going to introduce you to a very knowledgeable man on the subject of tapping. Nick Ortner will explain everything you will ever need to understand using tapping for creating a productive and more meaningful life without the anxiety we face daily.

Once you research tapping along with the power, relief, it provides your mind. You will become a lifetime student, mastering and eliminate each negative emotion that holds you back from achieving the success you visualized. The mind holds and controls our destination with life. At all levels, from health, financial, emotions, spiritual along with any obstacle that prevents you from having a healthy unpopulated mind.  Our thoughts dictate our consequences.

Eliminate all the negative sensations you face daily, create a much more healthy lifestyle that provides you with endless possibilities of success you have anticipated of achieving. Now is the time to starting living a much more rewarding life that has a balance equation of self-actualization. Click on the site below and allow Nick and his sister, Jessica, provide you with all the information for you to enjoy the life you always have wanted.


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All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How to Use This Information wisely with You're Success

March 17, 2016

Happy Saint Patrick's Days first of all.

Providing solutions for your success, when you apply the information you have read and reviewed on this blog, by following and keeping updated with new steps to enhance your abilities at an astounding rate. Regardless with what business you are associated with any marketing whether it be an eCommerce, MLM, or brick and mortar businesses you currently run. This blog will illustrate how you can generate greater results with your marketing approach.

The success of running a business has petite to do with luck. What this mean is when we plan our luck, we will get results with our efforts. We have to implement a system for each time we promote an article, an ad or an offer. We need to have an (ROI) as compensation. Otherwise, it is a waste of human energy.

The theory of this article is to provide you with the information you can implement daily starting today. There is no cause to look guilty for using what I have researched. Success has its ways of returning an (ROI) not always monetary but in a form of building a lasting relationship that provides a residual income. If you chase money, the expertises in this field of correct mindset, say that you will never accomplish this achievement.

Service is a lost commodity in any industry, once you master it, effusively understand how to apply theses concept to your daily activity you will see the numbers increases. Why it is so vital to implement the need to following your numbers. What they share will make you either rich or broke.

What we created is a blueprint for success, with the shortest possible route to getting there, you are not making any wrong turns. You are following the road to success, by understanding how to sell the sizzle, and have your audience, customers; followers access it now.

So let's get started with our development:

According to many gifted professional copywriters, the most meaningful few words are the title or pitch your marketing. If it does not capture the attention of your customers brand, no one is ever going to click on your "title." The first step you will need to master when promoting, your pitch is the title you can learn all about how we accomplished this. Read More. 

Curiosity will generate an endless stream of an audience that is requesting more information on your promotion. The key element here is how do we engage with our new prospects, which provides us with an (ROI.) We now have a player that we can convert his thinking with empathy. Read More

How you can create an endless stream of prospect with Social Media Sites, the site l like using the most is LinkedIn. It provides detailed profiles, with filters for you to target your niche prospects in your market. Read More


Prospecting has always been a difficult task, approaching your target market in a professional manner is an essential element, establishing credibility with engaging at a satisfactory level of success. Read More This is the essential component, master this, then the future is in your hands. 

With the above links and information, you should be able to train your team on how to be accountable for results that will become, natural.
All You Need to Have is this ability, very few do.  Listen to the song if anything else you might have benefited from this article.
 Master This, "then the wow factor kicks in."

Prospecting. 
Developing New Leaders, 
An increase in production daily. 
Look forward to your comments and replies.

Happy Saint Patrick's Day,
enjoy it whether you're a pioneer, or on the other side of the coin. 

All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How to Increasing You're Marketing Skills when writing Headlines

March 10, 2016

Marketing is an unpredictable environment, what worked yesterday may not work today; if we keep this in mind, we will adopt and implement current market trends in our niche industry.  Understanding our market is the most important aspect of becoming a very creative and innovator marketer.  We can write the most original articles, but if no one reads them, they are counterproductive and nowhere to be found in cyberspace.

Marketing is not only a skill but an “Art”; we need to multiply our audience, gain their attention and entice them to read further what we are offering. Once we have accomplished this step, we have an opportunity to make a first-class impression.  So let’s be fair the most import line on your ad, would be the headline of your article. What we all read first, the headline also know as the title of any article, book, etc. If it does not trigger our interest, more than as we click on the next item until we found one we like. Let’s review some ideas to writing real ingenious headlines for your ads, articles or eBooks.

-Telegraph the promise of a positive benefit.

-Emphasize the strongest benefits in conjunction with your niche market, as competent as possible.

-Outline two and sometimes three benefits on your title that will seduce readers.

-Stay away from fancy words; keep it simple and easy to understand.

-Review and make sure you have used proper spelling and grammar.

-The last one l like using is to make your headline stand alone.

-If you can create an attractive title, which stimulates curiosity, it's an absolute bonus.

                                     Excellent Tool for rating your headline

The Stand Alone Test:

What a stand alone tests means is how much of response have you gotten or will get. Here is an example of this trial, “Write for More Information’ would this draw attention from your audience if they like what they had read so far. Leaves your reader with a moment of curiosity, in most situations they will provide the information you have requested so they can have that information. You're trying to sell the sizzle, to induce them to click on your link. 

Writing creative headlines is an art and science all in itself, and well worth spending some time learning and mastering.  The best headlines written are the ones you find on tabloids, such as “The National Enquirer” (l would strongly recommend and suggest you studying these ads in the tabloids.)

They have some of the best Headlines that gain your immediate curiosity and for unknown reasons you have done what they wanted you to do. Buy their useless material! Here are some examples of some original and productive headlines those tabloids like to use. “AMAZING DIET SECRETS OF HOLLYWOOD ACTRESS THAT CAUSES OVERWEIGHT LOSS.”  

You can see how this will work for you, and again you bought their magazine their mission was successful. The headline caught your attention.

With a stronger comprehension of how important a "Headline" you should review and change your headline or title until it has some of the fundamental ideas l have listed for you. 

How effective is my Headline for this article, check the score, and what part of my Title links with the three areas of emotions. Just copy and paste the title into the search browser.

           3 Areas to concentrate when creating a Clever and Effective Headline

                                                              -Intellectual

                                                              -Empathetic

                                                              -Spiritual

All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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How do we Protect Ourselves with Hyperinflation

March 4, 2016

First of all, we need to understand what the term Hyperinflation means? It is currently happening worldwide the country can not sustain or keep up with their deflated currency.  Everything we bought yesterday costs more today.

How and where do we invest our money in, certainly not with any bank, stocks are very unpredictable, the same with most mutual funds, or stock options, very confusing and expensive if we decided on the wrong road for our financial return. Could cost our retirement savings we had at one time. Here is the best performing asset in 2016.

I am no expert in this field, but I do listen to the ones that are experts in this area of expertise, Jim Rickards, Mike Maloney, and  Nick Barisheff to mention a few. What controls inflation, debt indeed plays an essential element. Take for example the American deficit at the end of 2015 was $18.1 Trillion dollars with a budget for the fiscal year of 2016 to be approximate $19.4 trillion, mind boggling. How will America and many other countries make their interest payment on their debt? Print more money which is only a bandage that increases additional inflation.

What backs up the U.S. buck, there is no commodity at all. Why Richard Nixon eliminated the gold standard, so he could have his freedom with the U.S. Buck used all over the world as the currency of choice. When Governments need more money, they just print it, who cares at the time, that is their solution. Then along came Mr Ronald Regan, the white shining armour man who had to compete with the cold war with Russia.

What did this competition prove other than increasing spending on their Military Forces, just created more debt? Ronald wanted to have the most up to date weapons, planes, ships, submarines to protect the world. We do appreciate his judgement, but only got us all into a painful period that took years to come back and haunt us all. It arrived several years ago; Mr Bush help the increases also with his reckless spending with a war that never proved any of the claims he had made.

Some of the Solutions for Hyperinflation

-Central Banks have to stop printing more money so they can keep up with the interest on the deficit.
-Government has to find a way to lower their expenditures 
-Increase taxes, with a better system of collecting taxes that are outstanding. 
-Federal Government has to raise the Reserve Requirements
-Federal Government has to implement stricter limitations, regulations with tougher disclosure for mortgage brokers and stock brokers

What are some of your thoughts with Hyperinflation, do you think it is happening at an alarming rate?

The biggest problem with Government Data released for public viewing is that its masquerade corrupted and manipulated by unreliable information.



All the Best,

Joseph F. Botelho One Gram at a Time

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